SHAADI KI PEHLI RAAT

(SUHAAG RAAT)

Humarey haan aksar yeh baat ma'aroof hai kay shaadi ki pehli raat mubashrat honi zaroori hai warna valima ja'ez na hoga haala'n kay Quran o sunnah ki roshni mein iss baat ki koi haqeeqat nahin humarey haan amooman nikah raat ko bohut late hota hai aur dulhan ko ghar pohonchtey pohonchtey raat kay do, dha'ee baj jatey hain iss doran donon thak kar chuur ho chukey hotey hain pehli raat donon thakawat, khauf, ghabraahat, nervousness aur hichkichahat ka shikar hota hai, khusoosan agar mian biwi pehley sey ek doosrey sey waqif na hun humarey haan aksar aisa hi hota hai larki apna ghar chor kar naey ghar aur naey logon mein aati hai usey khauf hota hai kay na janey susraal kay log kaisey hongey, khawand ka ravaiyya kaisa hoga. Doosri taraf larkey ko sex kay hawaley sey nakaami ka khauf hota hai kay aayah woh mubashrat kar sakey ga ya nahin larki ko bhi mubashrat ki takleef ka khauf hota hai iss khauf aur tashweesh ki wajah sey aurat ki faraj ka dahaana tung ho jata hai aur faraj kay ander chiknaahat ki kami ho jati hai, larka samajhta hai kay agar iss ney pehli raat mubashrat na kii to larki samjhey gi shayad mian iss qabil nahin haala'n kay jawani mein har mard jismani le'haz sey normal aur jinsi amal ka ahel hota hai albatta khauf aur zehni daba'u ki wajah sey ba'az auqaat tanau (erection) nahin hota ya aen moqa per khatam ho jata hai jo kay bilkul fitri amar hai kyun kay khauf aur zehni daba'u tanau kay dushman hain, le'haza iss surat e haal kay paesh e nazar pehli raat sex ko zyada ehmiat hasil nahin honi chahiyie chuna'ncha pehli raat mubashrat na karna donon kay liye mufeed hai.Behter hai kay pehli raat dulha aur dulhan gup shup lagaei'n ek doosrey sey waqif hun ek doosrey ko samjhein, ek doosrey ki pasand na pasand sey aagaahi hasil karein ek doosrey kay jazbaat aur ehsaasaat aur khwahishaat ko janei'n. Mubashrat kay elawa ka'ee doosrey tariqo'n sey jinsi lutf hasil kya ja sakta hai maslan pyar o muhabbat ki baatein, biwi mian ki taareef karey, bos o kinar sey lutf andoz hunm ek doosrey kay jism kay lums sey lazzat hasil karein, ek doosrey kay jism per hath phaerein, massage karein. Ek doosrey ko galey lagana, bhee'nchna, baghalgeer hona aur lipatna waghaera bohut lutf angaez hota hai aur phir ek doosrey sey lipat kar so jaei'n lekin agar donon ek doosrey sey waqif bhi hun to phir bhi pehli raat mubashrat karni zaroori nahin. Amooman thakawat ki wajah sey donon zyada lutfandoz nahin hotey taa'hum agar donon fresh hun, raazi hun ya khawand ka israar ho to aap inkaar na karein iss sey amooman tulkhi paeda ho jati hai. Ba'az auqaat yeh inkaar mustaqil tor per mian biwi kay ta'alluqaat mein zeher ghol deta hai. Waisey bhi Allah kay nabi kareem ne biwi ko inkaar karney sey sukhti sey mana farmaya hai aur aisi aurat per farishtey saari raat la'anat bhejtey hain chuna'ncha inn donon surto'n ein pehli mubashrat mein harj nahin aur iss sey lutfandoz honay ki koshish karein. Ta'hum behter yehi hai kay pehley do din ek doosrey ko samajhney, maanoos honay aur ek doosrey kay jazbaat, ehsaasaat, khwahishaat aur pasand, na pasand ko jan'ney mein guzarein inn dino'n mein mubashrat kay elawa mazkoora baala tariqo'n sey jinsi lutf hasil karein albatta jab bhi mubashrat karni ho to uski tayyari karein, din ko aaraam karein mian ki pasand kay pur kashish aur sexy kaprey pehnein.

 PREPARATION OF FIRST INTERCOURSE:

Halka sa makeup karlein, shaam ko khana halka aur jaldi kha lein kaam sey wapsi per mian ka muskuratey huey pur josh istaqbaal karein usey bataein kay aap ney uss kay intezar mein saara din bechaeni mein guzara. Shaam ko ghusl karlein, tooth brush karna na bhoolein apney jism aur libaas ko khawand ki pasand ki khushboo sey mu'atter karein, kamrey kay mahol ko khoobsurat aur purkashish banaein (mubashrat kay aadaab (preparation of intercourse) waley hissey ko ek baar phir parh lein).
Mubashrat sey kam az kam 20 ta 30 minute pehley mohabbat kay khel (foreplay) sey lutfandoz hun (tafseel kay liye 'mohabbat ka khel' waley hissey ka muta'alla karein) hatta kay aap ki faraj mein chiknaahat (lubrication) paeda ho jaey phir mubashrat kay tariqa number 1 ko istimaal kartey huey mubashrat karein, behter hai kay mian ka zakar bhi chikna ho iss tarah dakhool mein aasaani hogi aap ki taangei'n khuli magar zyada ooper na hun dakhool kay waqt apney jinsi lubo'n ko kholein aur zakar daakhil karney mein khawand ki madad aur rehnumaee karein. Iss kay liye zaroori hai kay aap ko khud bhi ilm ho kay faraj kahan hai, kuch aurtein dakhool kay waqt parda e bakarat (hymen) phatney per kuch dard mehsoos karti hain aur kuch khoon bhi nikalta hai magar uss kay sath bey panaah lutf bhi aata hai agar parda e bakarat pehley hi phata hua hai to takleef kam hoti hai, parda phatney ki surat mein dobara foran mubashrat na karein, zakhm ko ek aadh din kay liye mundamil honay dein amooman pehli mubashrat donon mian biwi kay liye kuch takleef deh hoti hai lekin agar khawand zakar ko chikna karley, tez jhatkey na lagaey aur aap jism khusoosan faraj kay baerooni muscles ko dheela chor dein to amooman mubashrat mein takleef nahin hoti. Pehli mubashrat ko aasaan bananey aur khauf ko khatam karney kay liye chund baar tasawwur mein mubashrat karlein iss sey aap ka khauf khatam ho jaey ga aur mubashrat aasaan hogi.

Ba'az auqaat faraj tung hoti hai ya dakhool kay waqt faraj ka mu'nh (entrance) wahan zyada khoon aa janey ki wajah sey sooj kar tung ho jata hai to aisi surat mein dakhool bohut mushkil ho jata hai iss kay liye khawand 20/30 minute kay foreplay kay ba'ad apni shahadat ki ungli (naakhun katey hun) chikni kar kay faraj mein ahista ahista daakhil karey, iss kay sath hi aap bhi faraj kay muscles ko dheela chor dein. Iss sey takleef kam hogi thori der ba'ad ungli ko ander baher harkat dey jab aap isey bardaasht karlein to phir khawand apni angoothey kay sath wali do ungliyaa'n chikni kar kay faraj mein ahista ahista daaley, thori der kay baad unko ander baher harkat dey iss sey amooman parda e bakarat (hymen) phutt jata hai kuch khoon bhi nikalta hai aur ma'amooli si takleef bhi hoti hai magar iss sey zabardast jinsi josh bhi paeda hota hai. Ungliyon kay dakhool kay ba'ad zakar ka dakhool aasaan hojata hai jab khoon kam ho jaey to phir khawand chikney zakar ko tariqa no. 1 kay mutabiq ahista ahista faraj mein daakhil karey aur ahista ahista jhatkey laganey kay sath hi woh aap kay bazer ko bhi mushtail karey, bazer ko aap khud bhi mushtail kar sakti hain. Aurat kay lutf kay liye bazer ka ishtiaal bohut mufeed hai agar aap relax ho kar mubashrat mein bharpoor ta'awwun kareingi to aap ko takleef na hogi ya phir bohut hi ma'amooli hogi lekin agar zyada takleef ho to ek din kay liye mubashrat multawi kar dein ta'kay zakhm mundamil ho sakey. Dakhool kay ba'ad donon mian biwi per ghusl laazim ho jata hai chahey mian ka inzaal hua ho ya na ho. Ghusl e janabat jitni jaldi ho utna hi behter hai taa' kay insan jald paak ho jaey.

 

 SUHAAG RAAT OR MENSES

  Ba'az auqaat suhag raat ko aurat ko haez (menses) shuru ho jata hai jis ki wajah sey khawand ko sukht pareshani ka samna karna parta hai usey zabardast tanau ho raha hota hai jo kisi surat khatam nahin hota mubashrat woh kar nahin sakta aisi intehaee surat mein mard kay zakar aur khusyon mein shadeed dard honay lagta hai woh mard jinhon ney kabhi khud lazzati (masturbation) nahin ki hoti unn kay liye ye ek nehayat sangeen masla hota hai kyun kay agar mard ko 4 ghanto'n sey zyada der tana'u rahey to woh mustaqil tor per na mard ho sakta hai chuna'ncha aisi surat mein biwi ko sharam ek taraf rakhtey huey chahiyie kay woh khawand kay hassas hisson khusoosan zakar ko chikney hathon sey mushtail karey hatta kay woh manzil (discharge) ho kar sukoon hasil karey.

 

 MUBASHRAT K BAAR (AFTERPLAY)
Allah kay nabi ney mubashrat kay foran ba'ad alaehda honay sey mana farmaya hai mojooda mahireen ney bhi afterplay ko bohut ehmiyat di hai, taqreeban tamam mahireen kay nazdeek yeh na sirf bohut ahem bul kay nihayat zaroori hai aur yeh orgasm sey bhi behter hai khusoosan khawateen kay liye. Le'haza orgasm kay foran ba'ad mian sey alaehda na ho jaei'n aur bister sey bahir na nikal jaei'n bul kay uss kay jism kay sath jism mila kar leti rahei'n uss kay jism per hath phaerei'n, choomei'n, uss kay sath baghalgeer hun aur usko bhee'nchein waghaera. Mian ko bataei'n kay woh kis qadar taaqatwar hai aur aap ney uss kay qurb aur mubashrat sey kis qadar lutf uthaya, usey bataei'n kay woh ek shaandaar mohabbat karney wala (lover) hai yani uski ta'areef karein usey bataein aaj kay jinsi amal (love making) mein aap ko sab sey acha kya laga taa kay woh aaenda bhi aap ko isi tarah khushi aur lazzat dey. Safaee waghaera kay ba'ad us kay seeney ya baazu per ser rakh kar so jaein, ikatthey soney ka ek yeh fa'eda bhi hai kay mian ko raat kay waqt phir tanau (erection) ho sakta hai to iss surat mein ek baar phir jinsi amal (love making) sey lutf uthaya ja sakta hai. Mubashrat kay kuch der ba'ad donon ikatthey naha bhi saktey hain mian kay jism per sabun lagaein, usey mulei'n, maqsad mael utarna nahin bul kay lutf hai . Us kay jism per massage karein aur phir uss kay jism ko khushk karein shaadi kay ibtidaee saalo'n mein nahatey huey aap kay jism kay lums sey khawand ko phir tana'u aa sakta hai nahatey waqt mubashrat ka lutf bohut munfarid hai.

 

 GUSAL-E-JANABAT KA TARIQA
Mubashrat mein dakhool kay ba'ad aurat per ghusal lazim ho jata hai iss kay liye mard ka inzal hona ya aurat ka orgasm hasil karna zaroori nahin iss tarah jab bhi koi cheez faraj mein daakhil hogi to aurat per ghusl wajib ho jaey ga iss kay elawa kisi bhi wajah maslan khwab ya tasawwuraat ki wajah sey faraj sey pani beh nikley to bhi ghusl e janabat lazim ho jaey ga.

Ghusl e janabat kay liye pehley donon hathon ko dhoya jaey phir sharam gaah ko achi tarah dho liya jaey aur ek baar phir hathon ko achi tarah saaf kar liya jaey iss kay baad namaz kay wuzuu ki tarah wuzuu kya jaey phir ungliyaan pani mein tarr kat kay baalon ki jarron ka khalaal kar liya jaey phir poorey jism per pani baha diya jaey kay jism ka koi hissa tarr honey sey na reh jaey albatta khawateen ko apney baal kholney ki zaroorat nahin sirf inn per pani baha liya jaey. (muslim, bukhari).